Co-dependency
is a learned behavior that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy,
mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction”
because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are
one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.
Co-dependents often take
on a martyr’s role and become “benefactors” to an individual in need.
When the caretaking becomes compulsive, the
co-dependent feels choiceless and helpless in the relationship, but is unable
to break away from the cycle of behavior that causes it. Co-dependents view
themselves as victims and are attracted to that same weakness in the love and
friendship relationships.
Characteristics of Co-dependent People Are:
An exaggerated sense of
responsibility for the actions of others
A tendency to confuse love
and pity, with the tendency to “love” people they can pity and rescue
A tendency to become hurt
when people don’t recognize their efforts
An unhealthy dependence on
relationships. The co-dependent will do anything to hold on to a
relationship; to avoid the feeling of abandonment
An extreme need for approval
and recognition
A compelling need to control
others
Fear of being abandoned or
alone
Rigidity/difficulty adjusting
to change
Chronic anger
Lying/dishonesty
Poor communications
Difficulty making decisions
Let's put the fun back in dysfunctional.
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