As a guy in my late 30's early 40's who is thin, neat and single (NTTAWWT) without kids I have lots of opportunities to date. And there are lots of women out there with kids who need help. And they do not want to be alone. From where I have sat - it is hard for them. A lot of them will use sex to get/try to keep a man for the obvious reasons.
I have dated several like that...and I have run from several who want to have sex too quickly. I mean, I am all for it, but in a healthy relationship sex is the icing on the cake - not the water served by the busboy. (whatever that means)
Many women end up thinking that a man will save them, fix them and stop the storm in their heads. And they do crap like this. I have mistaken sex for love in my life and I can fall prey to these types of behaviors as well, but I believe that it is easier for women to want this type of fix especially when they have kids. And they go to bed on the first date thinking that it means something to him.
AS for now I only date women without kids in my age group - and there is another set of issues there - but the ones I avoid have never been worth the effort in my experiences.
They come from screwed up families and bad values and continue to make the same mistakes. They do not learn. Humans always seem to 'must' learn from their experiences and pain is a better teacher. But some just never read the signs and never improve.
